I Want To Be Respected!

 

Why do I want respect from people who don't give a damn about me?

Marc Sims

Chicago

Overcoming Fear of Judgement & Ridicule | Sadhguru

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E1fLidw2vrA

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You want respect from indifferent people because your mind often mistakes their approval for proof of your own worth. [1, 2]

When someone does not care about you, your ego sees their rejection as a puzzle to solve. Winning them over feels like a way to prove you are valuable. [1, 2]

Common Reasons Behind This Urge

Low Self-Esteem: If you doubt your own value, you rely on outside sources to tell you that you matter.
The "Fixer" Habit: Trying to win over cold people can feel familiar. It often repeats old patterns from past relationships where love or respect felt hard to earn.
Chasing Control: Getting approval from a difficult person feels like turning a threat into a safe situation.
Confusing Attention with Respect: You might think that making them notice you means you have won power or status. [1]

How to Shift Your Focus

Build Inner Value: Real confidence comes from how you treat yourself, not from chasing after people who offer nothing back. You can read more about building self-worth in guides like 7 Subtle Traits to Gain Genuine Respect From People.
Drop the Rope: Stop trying to impress or over-explain yourself to people who do not value your time.
Choose Availability Wisely: Protect your energy and pull back your attention from those who ignore you.