Why do I want respect from people who don't give a damn about me?
Marc Sims
Chicago
Overcoming Fear of Judgement & Ridicule | Sadhguru
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E1fLidw2vrA
Googe AI Overview
You want respect from indifferent people because your mind often mistakes their approval for proof of your own worth. [1, 2]
When someone does not care about you, your ego sees their rejection as a puzzle to solve. Winning them over feels like a way to prove you are valuable. [1, 2]
Common Reasons Behind This Urge
- Low Self-Esteem: If you doubt your own value, you rely on outside sources to tell you that you matter.
- The "Fixer" Habit: Trying to win over cold people can feel familiar. It often repeats old patterns from past relationships where love or respect felt hard to earn.
- Chasing Control: Getting approval from a difficult person feels like turning a threat into a safe situation.
- Confusing Attention with Respect: You might think that making them notice you means you have won power or status. [1]
How to Shift Your Focus
- Build Inner Value: Real confidence comes from how you treat yourself, not from chasing after people who offer nothing back. You can read more about building self-worth in guides like 7 Subtle Traits to Gain Genuine Respect From People.
- Drop the Rope: Stop trying to impress or over-explain yourself to people who do not value your time.
- Choose Availability Wisely: Protect your energy and pull back your attention from those who ignore you.
